Norman Wilkins 1928-2017

a bald eagle in a tree close up image

RIP Norman

Norman Wilkins lost his long battle with Alzheimer’s disease and passed away April 26, 2017 at 10:23 p.m., at Little Falls Care Center in Minnesota. In his memory, his eldest daughter Nadia Giordana worked up this Alaskan version of Mary Elizabeth Frye’s Do Not Stand at my Grave and Weep:
Do not stand at my grave and weep;
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I’m in the long Alaskan nights;
‘Tis where my heart and soul delights.
I live in the campfire’s glow;
I am the newly fallen snow.
I soar above with eagle’s flight;
I flicker in the northern lights.
I’m there with every critter’s call;
My favorite season? It’s the fall.
I’m every hunter’s frosty breath,
And every crunchy, leafy step.
I’m in the grunt of caribou,
And in the sweeping mountain view.
Do not worry where I’ll be;
My Maker’s hand will shelter me.

Norman R. Wilkins
Loving husband, father and avid outdoorsman

Norman R. Wilkins, 89, died Wednesday, April 26th at Little Falls Care Center in Little Falls, Minnesota.

Norman was born February 1, 1928, in Marshall County Iowa, to Ivo and Ruby Wilkins.

In 1948, Norman married Ladislava (Sylvia) Kolenc. They lived, farmed and raised a family in central Iowa, then in Motley, Minnesota until 1978 when they moved to Nelchina, Alaska. His friends there often called him Rawhide. In 2005 Norman and Sylvia left Alaska and returned to Minnesota, settling in Little Falls.

Norman is survived by his wife Sylvia, and three daughters, Nadia Giordana (Chuck Kasun), Beverly Volk, and Theresa Austin; six grandchildren; eleven great-grandchildren; three great-great-grandchildren; two brothers, Marion and Jerry.

He was preceded in death by a sister Virginia, a daughter Mildred, his son Paul and granddaughter Anitra Ann.

Per Norman’s request, there will be no formal funeral services. A private graveside memorial for immediate family and close friends will take place at Swan Valley cemetery in Leader, Minnesota at a later date.


Summer’84, finishing the house, visitors from Italy

unfinished log home

Finishing the log home took all summer and into the fall

Sunday, April 15, 1984—cloudy, then sunny, 15° to 40°. Sylvia and I started on our house, Dan B. came and helped. We got 41 feet of wall up. Tom, Lisa, Jim, Mary, Lee and Bob S. and Margaret visited.

Monday, April 16, 1984—partly cloudy and windy, 10° to 32°. Lots of phone calls and business. Dan helped and we got the rest of the east wall and the south wall up. Picture window is longer than planned, the header is short. Jim and Mary have a longer log and offered it to us.

Thursday, April 19, 1984—mostly cloudy all day, we got quite a bit of the plates on the logs. Allen Farmer stopped a couple of minutes. Coyotes were howling.

Monday, April 23, 1984—cloudy, then sunny, 42°. It’s light outside at 3 a.m. Geese and swans are flying. Finished rafters. Allen, Dan, Ron, and, Blake came over and we put the rest of the rafters up in an hour and a half. Jim and Mary stopped in. Everyone stayed to have supper with us.

Tuesday, April 24, 1984—Sunny, 12° to 50°. Allen helped put eight feet of roof on. George Roberson helped for a while and Sylvia and I put four feet of roof on in the evening.

Wednesday, April 25, 1984—partly cloudy, 10° to 40°. Dan helped in late morning and again in late evening. Sheeting and Purlins are on now. Swans are flying, saw a robin, bears are coming out of Dens in the mountains.

Saturday, April 28, 1984—sunny, 26° to 51°. Geese and swans still going through valley. Dan saw two griz on Nelchina River. Ermine visited us, he has turned brown. Sylvia and I put rafter blocks in and got steel ready. Dan got here with screws at 6:00 p.m. Tom helped and we got 11 sheets on the roof. Went to KROA for supper.

Monday, April 30, 1984—cloudy, 25° to 46°. Sylvia and I got some more steel on roof. Andy brought chimney liners. Dan Billman came to help but it was too windy. George R. visited. Went to KROA with Andy and got home late. Hoffmans had left milk and eggs.

Monday, May 7, 1984—sunny, 22° to 59°. Went to Wasilla and Anchorage for chimney blocks and upstairs windows. Got back at 9:30 p.m.

Thursday, May 17, 1984—sunny and breezy for a while, 24° to 60°. Went to Glennallen, put thimble in chimney and lay three blocks. Finished siding and trim on east end of house. Caribou are in velvet. A large amount of ice went down Nelchina River.

Wednesday, May 23, 1984—34° to 68°. Sunny, some wind and rain clouds towards evening. Went to KROA, had supper there and visited. Put up seven chimney blocks—almost to attic now. Laid 15 blocks for plenum at the stove in basement.

Tuesday, May 29, 1984—32° to 40s. Partly cloudy, windy afternoon. Cut out the window holes for basement. I start work every morning at 5:00 a.m. and eat breakfast at 6:00 a.m. We usually have company about 9:00 a.m., have coffee and visit a while, then back to work. Doesn’t always work out that way.

Tuesday, June 5, 1984—38° to 60°. Mostly sunny. Put up more ceiling, lowered floor down on plenum. Started raining in evening. Visited Tom to talk about land contract. Wednesday, June 6, 1984—37° to 50°. Raining this morning, cloudy all day. Put in both upstairs windows and more ceiling. Jim and Mary Odden visited in evening.

Wednesday, June 13, 1984—40° to high 50s. Put in the rest of window frames except picture window. Jim and Mary took us to Glennallen to a meeting.

Wednesday, June 27, 1984—40° to 48°. Rainy morning, cloudy all day. Still putting up pine paneling in the house.

Tuesday, July 3, 1984—40° to 50°. Cloudy and hard rain, some hail—still raining this evening. Lightning and thunder. Worked on kitchen and floor upstairs.

Friday, July 6, 1984—46° to 60s. Mostly sunny, some rain last night. Framed wall and chimney upstairs. Helped Bob and Kahren a little bit. Had a salmon supper with them.

Wednesday, July 11, 1984—40° to 58° and mostly sunny. Did more finish work in the house. Lots of visitors. Nadia called, visitors from Italy will be here tomorrow afternoon.

Thursday, July 12, 1984—44° to 55°. Mostly sunny, some rain showers at night. Went to Anchorage to meet plane. Ivo, Franca and Mac from Italy will visit for a few days. Borrowed Dan Billman’s van to bring them out here to our house.

Monday, July 16, 1984—40° to 50°. Partly cloudy, rainy and windy in the evening. Took Ivo, Mac and Franca to plane in Anchorage. Check prices on some things for the house, got back home in evening.

Tuesday, July 24, 1984—44° to 65°. Very nice day. Bob built cabinets in the house.

Sunday, July 29, 1984—45° to 55° and mostly sunny today. Put up beams in house. Started pantry shelves. Visited Lucky and Mary, Allen and kids were there.

Monday, August 13, 1984—28° to 60°. Some light frost, sunny day. Went to lawyer and did some shopping for other people and us. Light quake, 5.7. There is a fire on our side of Nelchina River near Botley Creek.

Monday, September 10, 1984—31° to 50° and sunny. James put vinyl in the house and Bob hauled gravel.

Tuesday, September 11, 1984—29° to 50° and sunny. Bob Rudbeck and I put Formica on the countertops.



Norman buys new snowgo


Norman buys a new Polaris snowmobile

Thursday, March 15, 1984—sunny, 6° to 30°. Went to Anchorage, bought new Polaris long track snowgo and did some other shopping. Picked up a rug stored at Andy Boyle’s and discussed insulating house. Andy estimates $2200.

Monday, March 19, 1984—sunny, -3° to 30°. Allen Farmer and I ran his Botley Creek trapline. He had five marten. I brought back a dozen burls. Helped Allen lay out a truss rafter and ate supper there.

Thursday, March 29, 1984—partly cloudy to sunny, 10° to 30°. Jim and Mary Odden, Darrel Gerry and I went to Green Acres. Jim and Mary will camp and stake a remote parcel beside ours on Old Boot Lake. Darrel and I did some work on our parcels and helped Jim and Mary some. Had a great time.

Sunday, April 1, 1984—sunny and windy, 20° to 38°. Sylvia helped scoop snow off basement and then went to Glennallen to do laundry. I came to trap cabin. Saw herd Caribou and moose, no new traps on some of Harry’s line, otter sign and new beaver lodge west of springs. Eight inches of overflow on Blue Lake—got stuck, got out easy, everything okay at cabin.

Monday, April 2, 1984—skiff of snow last night, sunny day, 20° to 30°. Went east to headwater lake of Old Man Creek. Did lots of exploring, built marten and mink boxes and added extension chains to traps. Saw cow moose and calf, lots of small birds near Big Spring. Windy in the evening.

Tuesday, April 3, 1984—snow showers, partly cloudy, 10° to 30°. Went to Judd Lake and explored country there. Put up five traps and one marten pole. Cut diamond willow. (Diamond willow is used for carving and making craft objects. The irregularity of shape and color in the grain adds to its appeal.) Explored, build cubby, placed more traps, improved trail—killed a porcupine (Sylvia uses the quills in crafts and Joe and Morey eat them). Saw a fox den on Judd Lake seismic trail south.

Wednesday, April 4, 1984—sunny, 10° to 35°. Up early, worked all morning getting ready to leave cabin and close it up. Ran lots of Harry’s line (with permission), picked up some more of his traps and hauled all three of sleds out and gear. Snow is soft. Visited Darrel at KROA.

Early ’84, trapping and pickin’

man with gray beard playing guitar

Henry Johnson from Nelchina Lodge

Sunday, January 1, 1984—snowing, 5° to 0°. Zoe, James, and Becky visited. Sally came over and we all went to KROA.

Monday, January 2, 1984—some sun, nice day, 4° to 20°. Loaded the snowgo and went to Dinty Bush’s then left to run the trapline. Saw marten track at Blue Lake and the track of a traveling Wolf family near ravine on the trapline.

Wednesday, January 4, 1984—snow last night, and today strong winds, 10° to 20°. I sewed griz rip in my sleeping bag, mixed marten bait, chinked some more in cabin.

Thursday, January 5, 1984—cloudy, 0° to 23°. Nothing on the line, made two marten sets. Saw tracks of two fox. A lot of people are staking at Loon Lake subdivision. Visited KROA, and Henry and Sally—Jim and Mary were there.

Saturday, January 7, 1984—sunny, -10° to -5°. Went to Glennallen. Couldn’t get wolf urine. Sewed lure, bait bags at Patti Billman’s (Dan is in Hawaii). Helped Allen Farmer butcher a road kill moose.

Thursday, January 12, 1984—warm and windy, light snow, 34°. Loaded snowgo and went to Dinty Bush’s, then left for the cabin. Made rat sets on Rat Lake. Saw marten, fox and lynx tracks. Nothing in traps. Emergency repair trap sled.

Friday, January 13, 1984—warm today and cloudy. Made fox set for this lake. Checked marten set and made another marten set. Explored for, and cut some new trail. Nailed some more mink and marten boxes.

Sunday, January 15, 1984—beautiful day. Remade all sets plus three new fox/coyote sets. Got a cross fox, marten and two rats. Left one rat set, skinned fox.

Monday, January 23, 1984—bright sun, -30° to -20°. Walked to wood lot, four trees blown down.

Tuesday, January 24, 1984—bright sun, clear sky and cold. -40° to -30°. Trimmed the four downed trees in the wood lot, cut into logs and piled them.

Wednesday, January 25, 1984—sunny and clear, -49° to -35°. Cut trap trail south, then west to next ridge.

Monday, January 30, 1984—cloudy, 10° to 18°. Ground 88 packages of moose meat at Allen F.’s. Visited with Sally, Darrel, Tom, Jim, and Mary for a while. Harry Billum was killed this day. I will miss him, he was a fine trapper.

Friday, February 3, 1984—it was -5° all day with light snow. Eight inches of snow on the trail to cabin. Made one fox set and one snare for lynx—remade most of the rest. Trouble getting up hill at Blue Lake. Got one marten south of cabin.

Saturday, February 4, 1984—0° to 16°. Cloudy, three inches of snow last night, sunshine this afternoon. Put up radio antenna, works well. Skinned marten and cleaned snow off roof again.

Sunday, February 5, 1984—partly cloudy, nice day, -5° to 7°. Made marten set and put up pole for another. Checked snowgo, cleaned snow off outhouse, and set snare for wolf.

Monday, February 6, 1984—bright sun, -5° to 4°. Chris R. flew Dan B. to Hole Lake and we visited for a while in the afternoon. I’ll get an early start tomorrow to go out. Put one conibear on pole and made another marten box set farther on trail.

Tuesday, February 7, 1984—sunny day, -10° to -7°. Up early, remade most sets on way out to road. Had to leave small sled half way out. Much deeper snow and many drifts, stuck in snow many times. Flat tire on truck. Stopped and visited Cora at Junction and KROA.

Wednesday, February 8, 1984—sunny day, -16° to -4°. Cleaned snow from cabin and woodshed roofs and bedded the dogs. Visited Henry and Sally, Sam, and Jim and Mary. Put belt on Patti Billman’s spinning wheel.

Thursday, February 9, 1984—beautiful day, -20° to -5°. Went to see Jim and Mary Odden. We each got a nice pile of wood out to their place and then home with ours after a nice Mexican supper. Lots of neighbors were at the supper and “pickin” after.



A fine buffalo hunt

two men with buffalo head

Darrell Gerry and Norman Wilkins with buffalo head at Nelchina

Thursday, September 15, 1983—28° to 38°, some snow. Skinned the moose Blake got, went to Anchorage, visited Connie and Andy until time to pick up Sylvia at the airport (Sylvia her sister Frances, Nadia and Darrell have just returned from three weeks visiting relatives overseas). Got home at 4:00 a.m.

Thursday, September 22, 1983—cloudy and rain, got to Delta one hour before daylight. Napped one hour, ate breakfast, went to Scott and Barney Hollembeck farm. Good hunting! I shot four crane, Scott and Darrel each got one. Slept in Delta.

We heard that Bob Able shot and killed Jack (don’t know his last name). Jack was Bob’s best friend and he had a 5- year-old son.

Sunday, October 16, 1983—cloudy, 15° to 20°. Got gear and truck ready to go buffalo hunting. Tried to saw stove wood, bar on saw failed.

Monday, October 17, 1983—cloudy, 20°. Darrel and I went to Delta and checked in with Fish and Game and started getting permission from farmers to hunt buffalo. Stayed at Cherokee II. The buffalo tramp down and eat the farmers’ grain crops.

Tuesday, October 18, 1983—hunted all day and got permission from more farmers to hunt on their land. Staying at the Silver Fox with Dan and Slick. Al has brought his wife Wendy and two boys from Pennsylvania to live here. Met lots of new people. Didn’t see any bison.

Wednesday, October 19, 1983—still snowing here, 0° to 20°. Later it cleared up. We each shot a crane. Darrell probably would’ve gotten another one but his firing pin broke. Got a nice bull bison after a long exciting chase. It was -10° below zero and dark while we dressed it out. Back to the Silver Fox at 2:00 a.m.

Thursday, October 20, 1983—gave some bison meat to friends here. Checked out with Fish and Game, got home after dark. Had a supper of buffalo hump.

Friday, October 21, 1983—partly cloudy, warm, 30°. Friends came to see bison and take pictures. Hung meat in Schmidt’s basement and had supper there.

Saturday, October 22, 1983—partly cloudy, 15° to 25°. Darrel and I took the buffalo cape and hide to get it tanned. Dan came and invited us to their place in the evening. Jim Odden’s folks are visiting from Wisconsin.



Drove to lower 48 to attend Beverly’s wedding

hands, wedding rings

Beverly and Kevin were married August 20, 1983

Tuesday, August 9, 1983—up early for the trip to the lower 48 for the wedding. Stopped at Schmidt’s and Darrel’s. Picked up two hitchhikers at Haines Junction. Made it to Whitehorse and slept a little.

Wednesday, August 10, 1983—truck is gobbling oil!! Saw some nice Burl tables and Burwash. Picked up a hitcher, “Bill” at Watson Lake. Lots of road work, saw a coyote. Napped at Fort St. John, and got to Dawson Creek at 6:00 a.m. Left Bill.

Thursday, August 11, 1983—good roads, made it to Regina about 5:00 a.m. Some rain.

Friday, August 12 1983—hot, 90° and winds 30 to 40 MPH. thru Manitoba. Got to Paul and Ruth’s at 10:00 p.m. and to bed at 12 o’clock.

Saturday, August 13, 1983—went to the dairy barn on our farm. Saw Rodney and Rose, Kenny and Eva, Tony, Harold and Lorraine. Drove on down to Minneapolis to Beverly and Kevin’s. Darrell and Nadia and Laura were there—very hot.

Wednesday, August 17, 1983—Paul and Stevie helped us sort out our things in the chicken house (we’re using it for storage). Went to Bridget Shequen’s place to get some of our things. Visited some people and walked over the farm. Stayed at Paul and Ruth’s.

Friday, August 19, 1983—Hot today. Called Theresa. Went to grooms dinner last night and my sister Virginia and her husband, Don Wink are to come over this evening. They are here from Cedar Rapids Iowa for the wedding.

Saturday, August 20, 1983—got ready for the wedding. Good weather, beautiful wedding, then reception and dance. Everyone had a good time. Went to Ivan and Mary Lou Boulton’s for a party—got home (Nadia’s) at 2:00 a.m.

Sunday, August 21, 1983—up at 6:00 a.m., went to Holiday Inn to have breakfast with Don and Virginia, then it rained. In the afternoon we went to Ivan and Mary Lou’s and Beverly opened presents. Rain quit, then went to Theresa and Earl’s for a barbecued steak supper and it rained again in the evening.

Thursday, August 25, 1983—went to the farm, talked to Borders and came back to Paul’s. Loaded truck for trip back to Alaska.

Friday, August 26, 1983—left Paul and Ruth’s about 8:30 a.m. (Sylvia is staying for a longer visit to go to Europe with her sister Frances and Nadia) Did some shopping, and got to Regina at 9:30 p.m. Got to Saskatoon about 12:30 and napped till 4:00 a.m. Had one rain shower.

Saturday, August 27, 1983—oats are fence post high in the fields around here. Some farmers harvest far into the night. Saw a red fox this morning. Nice sunny day, made Dawson Creek at 6:00 p.m. One rain shower.

Sunday, August 28, 1983—nice dawn, sunny day. Perhaps two dozen porcupines live and dead on the road to Watson Lake. One cross fox, one large black bear. Got to Watson Lake at 9:00 a.m. and got to Whitehorse at 3:00 p.m.

Monday, August 29, 1983—got home about 7:00 a.m. Good to be here. Everything here is okay. Did a few things and visited some people.

Summer ’83, building of log home begins

man sawing logs

Norman sanding logs for the home. Logs will be used upright rather than horizontal to allow for easier construction and water runoff.

Saturday, May 28, 1983—Tom and Lee D. came and we tried to survey property line. Made a pack to go to cabin to assess bear damage. Dan flew me out and stayed the night. Bear tore mattress, sleeping bag and cushion. He rubbed four trees leaving blonde hair. He dug the ground up at my old gas cache. (For some reason, bears are attracted to the odor of gasoline.)

Sunday, May 29, 1983—partly cloudy, warm, windy and 69°. Hiked with Dan to his plane on Blue Lake. He left and I came back and built shutters for the trap cabin windows. Hunted griz a while. Griz has rubbed hair seven feet up on trees. Observed a pair of swans and two pair of breeding ducks on my lake.

Monday, May 30, 1983—sunny, then rain, sunny again and 69°. Dug a hole and built outhouse. Built pole floor for porch and set chopping block in ground. Looked for bear at Hole Lake. Saw beaver swimming and the loons are back. Dan came in late in the evening.

Tuesday, May 31, 1983—raining when we got up but soon quit—then we flew to Snowshoe Lake. I came home and did a few things here. We went to visit Allen and Roxanne. Lucky stopped at our place later and picked up his transit.

Wednesday June 8, 1983—partly cloudy, calm and 40° to 50°. Blake gave me a 16 foot log for a stringer in our house. (We started last month stockpiling logs we will use to build a full-sized cabin.) Sylvia went to Glennallen with Margaret and I cut brush on the road to our property. Pulled a car stuck in loose gravel alongside the highway and got it back on the asphalt.

Monday, June 13, 1983—started digging basement, put some gravel on lane. Frost and 30°. Sunny breezy day, bugs are bad. Sylvia still sick. Earthquake tremor at 9:50 p.m.

Tuesday, June 14, 1983—sunny and a strong breeze. Dug down to the frost on the basement and started on the outhouse. Prepared Bob Schmidt’s site for his garage with the Cat. Danny brought Cat power take off from Anchorage. Bob Able got home from jail..

Tuesday, June 21, 1983—up early, Bob Able went with me to Anchorage to get septic tank, et cetera. Nice trip—got all our shopping done. Mostly nice weather, got unloaded in the evening. Charlie T. stopped to visit about land.

Monday, June 27, 1983—light rain all day. Bob Rudbeck and Dan Billman helped with basement walls. Sylvia and Bob Able helped all day. Jerry and Nick helped later. We have all but 20 feet of walls up now. Put up mailbox today.

Tuesday, June 28, 1983—Bob, Jerry, and Nick Rudbeck and Denny Griffith helped finish basement walls and put floor Joists on. Dan Billman brought my ladder and helped put beams up. Beautiful day, happy tonight. Had supper with them at KROA campground. Tom and Lisa brought a cake and we made out a money receipt.

Thursday, June 30, 1983—spread gravel in the lane and finished tar coating on basement. Shored up the walls of basement from the inside. Tom brought receipt for his down payment on parcel of land. Visited Lucky and Mary.

Monday, July 4, 1983—worked on logs for a while, then went to Billman’s place for a picnic—had a good time. Visited Hoffmans in the evening.

Tuesday, July 5, 1883—Dan flew Bob, Karn, Jerry, Betty, Dana and Nick Rudbeck, and Sylvia and me to Kianna Creek to fish king salmon. Nick and Kahren caught fish. Sylvia, Jerry, Dana and Nick lost several. Worked on sawmill in the evening and got water at Bob Schmidt’s.

Wednesday, July 6, 1983—Dan B. and Vern B. and wife borrowed hip boots and fish pole. Bob Rudbeck borrowed two pressure canners. Lucky, Sylvia and I got 33 House logs and some lumber sawed. Had supper at Blake and Jackie’s. Bob Able was shooting in the night. Shot two holes in his van.

Tuesday, July 12, 1983—still rainy. 5.7 earthquake at 6:00 a.m. Went to Dan’s, made several phone calls. Hauled the rest of house logs to mill. Hauled two big loads of firewood to our place. Visited Smayda’s about land business.

Friday, July 15, 1983—did odd jobs around the building site. Sanded two sill logs. Back filled rest of basement. George Shaffer brought 45 sheets of ½ inch plywood—very nice plywood. Paid him $360. Visited Lucky and Mary. Saturday, July 16, 1983—sunny day, got nine sill logs on. Took Mike, the dog, over to show him his home to be. Helped Bob Schmidt run some cement.

Friday, July 22, 1983—Bob Able was on a rampage. Lucky, Blake and I unloaded the lumber and I drove the truck back to Anchorage and rode home with Dan Billman.

Saturday, July 23, 1983—rainy day. Hauled Bob Able and his things to Sutton. Picked up Bob Schmidt’s lumber at Homesteaders Hardware in Big Lake.

Tuesday, July 26, 1983—Henry went back to the mine, Doug is staying with us. Bob, Kahren and Dana helped with the logs, got 29 sanded today. Dan and Patti brought us a phone message from Nadia this afternoon (we don’t have a telephone).

Wednesday, July 27, 1983—perfect weather, though hot. Bob and Kahren helped sand logs. Have 105 done now. Doug put log oil on some of the basement studs. Bob and Kahren treated us to pizza at KROA.

Sunday, July 31, 1983—a little rain, but mostly sunny. Finished sanding the logs. We have sawed 143 logs. Re-piled some lumber.

Wednesday, August 3, 1983—beautiful day, put two sill logs on and half the floor. Move the stairs to basement. Helped Bob Schmidt for a while. Measured the distance to Lake—383 feet.

Saturday, August 6, 1983—covered the house floor with plastic and bolted stairs to floor joist. Worked at drain field for septic system. Got three sections of pipe in. Went to KROA to see Darrel Gerry.

Sunday, August 7, 1983—finished fourth section drain field. Secured tarps on lumber. Drove pins in Cat track. Moved dogs to new place, got truck ready for a trip. Allen F. and Blake just discovered more log gone. Dan B. stopped and paid share on truck rental.

Monday, August 8, 1983—finished securing things at the building site and finished getting the truck ready. Went to KROA, Hoffman’s, and Jim and Mary Odden’s to check their place. We are going “outside”. Daughter, Beverly is getting married.